Group Sex Tips: Anal

Whether you’re a seasoned anal sex practitioner or in the beginning stages of enjoying anal sex, having anal sex in a group setting (more than one other person) brings a few new concerns as well as the typical ones. So although these anal sex tips are geared towards someone going to a sex party, these tips for anal sex are good for any circumstance.

Before the party

If you’re considering the possibility of anal sex at a group party, I suggest doing a few things to prepare before hand. These won’t do anything to harm you so you do them even if you don’t end up having anal sex at the party or are hesitant.

Eat a balanced diet or take a supplement

Eating well before the party is important for a couple of reasons. First, eating foods that don’t give you gas or make you feel bloated are kind of obvious. No one really feels sexy with an extended belly, especially if it’s uncomfortable to touch.

This next paragraph is going to be quite graphic. You probably don’t mind because you are reading a post about anal sex, but just thought I’d warn you.

Most Americans have diets that are low in fiber and leave them constipated or with very hard and bulky poop. I have on more than one occasion had my finger up an anus and felt small hard chunks of poop in there. Clearly, they needed more fiber in their diet. Then there is the flip side, where I fall. I eat a ton of foods  with fiber, particularly insoluble fiber. Insoluble fiber is the fiber that doesn’t get broken down and goes out easily and quickly. So while I don’t have diarrhea, I definitely suffer from loose bowels.

The easiest way to make sure your poop leaves your body efficiently, is to make sure your diet is balanced. But eating low fiber foods or foods high in soluble fiber (the kind that binds your poop together), often leaves you feeling bloated. So I found that by eating one of these Fiber Wafers from Metamucil the day before the party and one the morning of, my poop leaves my body efficiently and cleanly. I’m sure there are others that are good, but I like the way these taste and haven’t bothered finding another alternative. I’m sure any good brand of fiber supplement, powder, etc. will help you with this. I’d recommend testing out how your body acts with a fiber supplement a week before the party not the day before!

Use an Anal Douche

When you’re getting ready for the party, use an anal douche. I wrote all about in the blog post and I can’t recommend using one enough. They really work. They are easy to use. Please use one if you’re going to a group party and are thinking about anal sex. Having a poop accident when it’s just two people is one thing. Having a poop accident on a common area when other people are going to want to use the space after is not pleasant. Douching really helps eliminate the poop (pun intended) . Although, if an accident does happen even after you’ve taken precautions, don’t stress about it. Shit happens.

Wear a butt plug

I fully recommend wearing a butt plug to the party,  even if you’re not going to be having anal sex. There are so many nerve endings in your anal region that when you wear a plug, they’re activated and you get very aroused. Being very aroused at a sex party is a very good thing. If you are thinking about having anal sex at the party, if it does happen, your anus will be ready and you don’t have to worry about getting warmed up. Also, if you’re wearing one, when one of your play partners sees it, it’s a really big turn on for everyone.

Anal Sex Time

If you find yourself at a sex party and everything is lining up to have anal sex, there are a few things to keep in mind, especially if you are new to anal or new to sex parties.

Bring your own lube and use it

Any experienced host should provide lube in all the main sex areas, but often times lube is overlooked. Also, they may provide the cheapest lube available. Being at a sex party and learning that your body doesn’t respond well to cheap lube is not recommended. I have issues with lube. I know this so I bring my own lube (Isabel Fey, Hallelubeyah – use code UNICORN for 15% off, or Sliquid Sassy). Also, because I bring my own I don’t feel like I use as much as I want not worrying about whether I’m leaving enough for anybody else.

If you’ve had anal sex before then you know how important and how much more enjoyable the experience is when there is lots of lube. Going to the party with the butt plug in, you might have some lubrication already, but it probably won’t be enough. If for some reason you find yourself in a situation without lube, have the guy make a cup with his hand and both of you spit in it until there’s enough. Trust me, don’t think you can handle anal sex without lube. The ass does not self lubricate and the sphincter muscles are designed to push things out. You need lube. Don’t skip that part.

Position makes a difference

Most pornos show anal sex in doggy style. Do you know why? Because it make for a good camera angle and the penis can penetrate deeply. If this is your first time doing anal, or you’re still getting used to it, don’t start with doggy style. Reverse cowgirl is the best way for the woman to be able to control the speed and depth of penetration. Even the most experienced guys can’t feel what the other person is feeling.

Also, if you’re doing DP for the first time, starting with anal in the cowgirl position and then having the other guy mount you in missionary is the most comfortable. The person that is on top is the one that controls the speed. Also, if you’re facing the person on top, they can better gauge how you’re doing. So if you need to stop immediately for any reason, they can see you and hear you better when they are facing you.

Farting After Anal Sex

Hopefully you just had an amazing experience. When you have anal sex (or vaginal sex), air can be pushed up inside the channel. Afterward, the air wants to escape. When you’re one on one, it’s usually just something you can laugh about. However, I find I’m much, much more embarrassed about it during a group setting.

Quick Yoga Poses

After having anal, I immediately go to the bathroom. Usually quite a bunch of the air gets expelled from using the toilet, but sometimes I can still feel some up there. There are two yoga poses that work well to alleviate gas.

Wind Relieving Pose

Do a quick google search for wind relieving yoga pose and you’ll know exactly which one it is. If there is a clean bath mat in the bathroom, then I’ll do this one first. The pose works really well and you will understand why it got it’s name. If there isn’t a clean bath mat, then I do it up against the wall. It’s not as effective when you are standing but it does work some. When I’m in bed with another partner and they are taking time to go clean up then I do this pose in the bed.

Malasana Pose

This pose is one of my favorite poses and I do it often. By squatting down, it’s kind of obvious why this helps release some of the air. It also helps stretch many of your muscles at once so it’s great for after any kind of sex, too.

Realize it happens

If you’ve gone to the bathroom and did the yoga poses but you find yourself releasing air in someone’s face as they are going down on you (that has happened to me more than I’d like), just go with it. Recently, this happened while this girl was going down on me. She had just finished watching me have anal with another guy. I kept giggling every time air came out because I’m still a kid when it comes to farting. She stopped, looked me in the face, and told me how fucking sexy it was watching me getting fucked in the ass so to stop giggling because it was distracting her from eating my delicious pussy. That stopped the giggling.

It also made me realize that when you’re at a party having sex, it is not like a porno. Things get messy and bodies make noise. But we’re all there for the same reason, and we’re all adults and understand that things happen. After I stopped giggling and relaxed, some more air was expelled but it didn’t make the same farting noise because I was relaxed. I also ended up having another amazing orgasm from a very talented woman. I would’ve missed out on that if I hadn’t stopped giggling.