Group Sex Tips for Guys

Group sex is definitely high up there on virtually every sex wish list. Nearly every guy I’ve talked to has had a fantasy about being with more than one person at a time. And let’s face it, nearly every gal, too. In your fantasy, you’re the star of the show. Everything goes the way you want to. Everything works the way you want to. The reality of being in an intimate situation with more than one person is very different.

When most people think of a threesome, they’re normally thinking about a MFF threesome. And while an all female sexcapade is definitely all sorts of naughty fun, their are lots of other sexcapades involving men. Group sex or MFM threesomes are very common for good reason: they’re fun. But when you involve more than one male, sometimes things don’t go according to plan.

It happens more than you think it does

I’m not talking about more than twosome sex (even though it probably happens way more than you think it does). I’m talking about the fact that sometimes penises don’t get as erect as desired.

On more than one occasion (in fact, I’d say about 50%) of the time when there have been 2+ males present, at least one of the males has had difficulty getting or staying hard. There are so many reasons for this but it’s mostly because the guy is in his head.

It’s easy for a woman to “fake it until you make it.” It’s not so easy for a guy to fake it if he’s feeling nervous or anxious. Here are a few tips for guys in an intimate situation with more than one person. These tips are geared towards straight guys, as that is who I’ve had these experiences and discussions with. And for all you MF coupled ladies out there, that are trying to get your man into making one of your fantasies come true, these tips will help you help him.

Hit the gym, lightly

Whether you’re a gym rat or an occasional gym goer, you probably know how awesome you feel after you got your butt in there. Going to the gym (or yoga) before a gathering is a good idea. But don’t go at it too hard. I’ve seen more than one guy struggle with stamina because they hit the gym too vigorously before a get together. If you do go, make sure you go at least 3 hours before and have a chance to eat a meal at least 2 hours before you meet up. No one wants to be bloated and you don’t want to be too tired.

If you don’t have time to do a full workout (which is probably best), do some push ups and some ab work and you’ll be good to go and feeling great.

Don’t focus on yourself

The easiest way to relax is to focus on what is happening. As humans, we have a tendency to compare ourselves to others. In general, this is a good thing. The desire to improve and be the best is one of the key factors for the human race progressing as quickly as it has. But this basic part of human nature can backfire in an intimate setting. So focus on the woman/women.

We all know that guys can get so into something that they can’t focus on anything else. Use that skill in the bedroom. Focus on making her/them happy. Are you a boob guy? Then focus on the beautiful tits in front of you. Are you an ass man? Grab that ass and knead away.

Have a drink but don’t get drunk

I really only know one person that can hop into these situations stone-cold sober. I am not one of them and neither are the many other people I’ve talked to about this. As a male, you are in a precarious situation with alcohol. You will need to know your limits well. A drink or two can help you loosen up and help you relax. But if you drink too much, whiskey dick is a real thing. That third drink may actually be the cause of your performance issues and not nerves.

Speak up

If what is happening is making you uncomfortable, then you need to speak up. Maybe you just need to adjust positions so you don’t see the other penis involved. Or maybe you just need an extra moment with her mouth on your penis. Whatever it is that you need, speak up.

No one ever walks away from a situation saying, “I really wish that so-and-so didn’t say what they needed.” Have you ever been upset with a girl telling you what she needs? What about her asking you to move your knee or any other body part? (If so, you’re probably a fuckboy)

Everyone is there in that situation because they want to enjoy themselves. But they also want everyone else to enjoy themselves, and that includes you.

Don’t focus on the end result

Too often, men have a tendency to focus on the end result. You know that saying “a watched pot never boils?” Well, the more you focus on cumming, the harder it is for you to cum.

While having a really intense orgasm is a very good thing, it’s not the only thing. You may need to just slow everything down for a minute. Regardless of where everyone else is at in their orgasm journey, don’t be afraid to stop and ask for what you need.

Sometimes taking a moment to reconnect with someone will help your situation along. Maybe you need to stop and kiss the girl. Or maybe slow it down a little and talk dirty. Have the girl close her eyes and narrate everything you’re doing. That’s a personal favorite of mine and it works well for getting everyone going and up to par.

Unicorn Upshot: Getting everything out of your head isn’t as hard as you think.

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