Shooting cum inside a person, condom, or all over a surface is what most people think of when they think of a male orgasm. But a male orgasm is so much more than that. When it comes to having another person bring you to orgasm, men definitely have a biological advantage over women because the penis is located outside of the body. But like women, there is more to a male orgasm than what’s on the surface.

An orgasm begins in the head

Whether or not you believe “the eyes are the window to your soul,” when it comes to male orgasms, visual input is a huge component to a man’s orgasm. Activation of the amygdala (the part of the brain responsible for sexual feelings, penile erection, and sensations of extreme pleasure) is what causes anyone to be aroused. And I’m sure you already know what the science says about men and activating the amygdala… You guessed it: when men experience visually appealing stimuli their amygdalas are activated.

Visual stimuli isn’t the only thing responsible for activating the amygdala, but men have a much larger response than women do to visual stimuli. This increased activation from visual stimulation is the main reason why men have a propensity towards having porn addictions, unlike women.

Luckily, visual stimuli isn’t the only thing necessary to get the amygdala running; otherwise visually impaired men would never be able to get aroused. The amygdala is responsible for processing emotions including love, fear, and anger. So every man (and woman) is going to have different kinds of triggers to get their engines running. But if you want to bet on what will turn a guy on, dressing up in a sexy outfit is a really safe bet.

The P-Spot rivals the G-Spot

By now, I hope that you know enough about male biology and have at least seen a TV show or movie mention a prostate orgasm because prostate orgasms are the male equivalent of a G-Spot orgasm (maybe a U-Spot orgasm but doubtful). The prostate is about the size of a walnut and is located under the male bladder between the rectum and the urethra. Obviously, it’s on the inside and the best way to reach it is by going through the anus. But it can get stimulated externally, although it won’t feel as intense as when it is stimulated directly through the anus.

If you’ve read some of my other posts, you know that I have learned to like anal sex and for a good reason: it feels good when done right. There are thousands of nerve endings and when properly stimulated (meaning not painful) my orgasms are more intense and pleasurable. The same is true for men. In fact, the men I’ve talked to that have had prostate orgasms have all said that it feels more intense and pleasurable than the traditional penile orgasm.

While I admit it’s taken me awhile to get over the “ick” factor of anal play, with proper anal preparation and methods, it hasn’t been messy and has brought nothing but enjoyment. If you are concerned that ass play is a sign of homosexuality, don’t be. Stimulating a part of your body that brings pleasure has nothing to do with which gender you find yourself attracted to. So if you are a woman and your man wants you to play with his ass, you really should. After all, would you only want him playing with your clit, or would you want him to penetrate you, too?

A man can orgasm without ejaculating

There is a fair amount of conflicting research and testimonies into how or if a man can orgasm without ejaculating. I have never experienced an orgasm without ejaculating because I don’t have the same equipment, but I have no doubt that it can happen. And just like squirting is not peeing and is indeed a different type of orgasm, there are too many men out there that have told me about their experiences to disregard it.

Since I don’t have any personal experience in this matter, I can’t give you any pointers but just do a search on orgasm without ejaculation and you’re sure to find methods. The basis of this type of orgasm seems to be one of three main methods:

P Spot without ejaculation: The prostate is massaged to the point of orgasm but rather than engaging the muscles to release semen, the orgasm is felt through the prostate and anal region.
Edging: bringing yourself close to orgasm but delaying gratification. Thus having the feeling of peaking for extended periods of time.
Energy transfer: Taking the energy that builds from the genital region and drawing it up through the spine to the higher regions of the body and dispersing it through the entire body.

My Experience

Edging is something that I have personally experienced. While it feels great and intensifies the final orgasm, I don’t feel like edging is actually orgasming. But that’s my own personal experience and it might feel different you.

I have also experienced an energy transfer orgasm. These are difficult to do without a bond between two people. These types of orgasms require a fair amount of trust and as the amygdala processes all kinds of emotional connection, if one does not feel safe (whether be it from judgement or physically), it will be difficult to focus and redirect the energy.

Bringing someone to orgasm is one of my most favorite things to do. Watching a man writhe in pleasure from the experience we are sharing together gives me an incredible feeling of satisfaction, joy, and pure pleasure (I am quite voyeuristic). Getting over my issues with anal play has been nothing but a positive experience. I know that a lot of that comes from the fact that I set aside my own insecurities and my own doubts and just focused on my partner. Get out of your head and get into bed!

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If you have an orgasm today, it’s a good day!